Saying one prefers strawberry ice cream does not mean they hate mint ice cream. It just means it’s not the flavour they prefer.
Or maybe they like eating strawberry ice cream, but like to make other treats using mint ice cream. You can’t argue they hate mint ice cream unless they say they hate mint ice cream.
I’d say I generally “present” as masculine in my apparel, physicality, grooming, and speech. And I am sexually attracted to masculine energy and physiques. This doesn’t preclude my being great friends with, hiring, or even hooking up with femme-presenting men, it just means they’re not my immediate cup of tea.
Now, I fully agree, putting “masc4masc” in your Scruff bio, or as your name on Manhunt is a dick move, and leaves “masc” open to broad interpretation: Capt. Jack Sparrow? Fred Astaire? Lumberjack?
How’s about… and I know this is a risky suggestion… we treat people like people, and give each of them a chance? Having a beer with a dude who’s outwardly “femme” looking may reveal he’s rebuilt more car engines than an apprentice mechanic. Chatting with a super butch-looking Muscle Mary may reveal his biggest fear is chipping a nail at the gym. (Yeah, yeah, I know, I'm gendering certain behaviours for the sake of this argument.)
Let’s not judge that book by its cover. And for the record, I hate strawberry ice cream.